Why me?

Jan 01, 2007
By dvm360.com staff

Feel like you have a bright, shiny target tattooed on your forehead? Chances are, a bully singled you out for a reason. Here are eight profiles of common bully targets. Even if you can’t dodge the attack, you’ll understand better why you’re the one dodging missiles.

You were simply in the wrong place at the wrong time. Bullies are opportunistic; take heart knowing you weren’t her first victim and you won’t be the last.
You’re a person of integrity. Bullies despise people with this trait because they desperately wish they had some.
You’re good at your job. Bullies seek to tear others down to hide their own inadequacies.
You’re well-liked among colleagues and clients. Bullies’ tirades are often fueled by jealousy of healthy relationships and envy of intellect and talent.
You receive more attention than the bully. Many bullies possess the emotional maturity of a 3-year-old child and require constant attention and flattery.
You reveal vulnerability that she can exploit. Bullies can smell weakness from a mile away and will capitalize on any sore spots you expose.
• You refuse to bow to the bully or join her clique. Eschewing conformity—or simply having a mind of your own—might be enough to put you in a bully’s crosshairs.
You aim to change (gasp!) the status quo. Bullies are often threatened by change, unless, of course, they are the ones leading the revolution.