I work with a real “B” word

I work with a real “B” word

“There’s a bully who’s really wrecking my life at my veterinary practice. How do I broach the “B” word to my boss—and when is it time to move on to another hospital?” Sheila Grosdidier, RVT, of VMC, Inc. in Evergreen, Colorado, says the answer lies in another “B” word: Showing your boss how the bully affects the business.
Nov 11, 2015


Don’t have time to watch? Here’s a quick snapshot:

At first, Sheila thinks we mean the other “B” word … you know the one. In this case, “B” word = Bully. Or, you know, whatever.

Then she offers a totally legitimate answer:

If someone’s disrespecting you …

If it happens again and again …

And if it’s deliberate …

You’re totally being bullied. And you completely need to do something about it.

The bad news: You may need to change the way you think about your bully and decide you’re not going to let them affect you. The next step: Confronting your bully and discussing how you need to work together more effectively.

If that doesn’t work, it’s time to talk to the boss. And this means you need to talk about another “B” word: the business. You need to be able to explain how the bully’s behavior affects the business.

How do you know it might be time to leave?

You’ve tried negotiating …

You can’t sleep at night …

You can’t think of anything else …

It affects your performance … and the quality of your life …

These might be signs it’s time to move on. Just remember, you’re helping other team members you’ve worked with if you tell your boss you’re leaving because of a bully. “You might not be the first person to leave,” Sheila says, "But it may not be the right person who’s leaving."

Work w/ a "B" word

I am a practice manager at a hospital with 30 employees. We have all kinds of personalities in our office. I had what I was told to be an issue with a bully. The staff member that was being the bully is one of our most liked receptionists by the clients and the other staff members, so I could wrap my head around the claim. I told the staff member to speak to the "bully" one on one and see if she couldn't work things out - maybe it was a misunderstanding. I was told everything was worked out and things were good. Only to get the same complaint from the same staff member 3 months later about the same employee bullying her (after she blasted on Facebook that she was being bullied at our clinic!).
Come to find out, after I got them both together, the bully had no clue what she was talking about - had no ill feeling for the girl. The one saying she was bullied started to cry and said that the "bully" didn't do anything or say anything to her, but she didn't talk to her as much as the rest of the staff, so she just knew that the "bully" didn't like her. And assumed that she was being talked about when she wasn't around.
These are 2 totally different personalities. One that has low self esteem and keeps to her self and other that is very out spoken and everyone loves her.
The term "bully" to me is over used extensively. I think that the whole situation needs to be looked at closely by the practice manager before any drastic measures are taken. Yes, bullies exist, but not to the extent that the media portrays. Sometimes, it is just 2 personalities that need to work on their EQ (emotional intelligence) on how to handle/deal with other people/personalities.